Blog – JSPC Student BLOG /jspc/studentblog The official blog of Jindal School of Psychology and Counselling Tue, 04 Oct 2022 08:41:18 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.2.6 /jspc/studentblog/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/jgu-150x150.png Blog – JSPC Student BLOG /jspc/studentblog 32 32 Home /jspc/studentblog/2022/08/30/home/ Tue, 30 Aug 2022 07:41:02 +0000 https://jgu-staging.jgu.edu.in/studentblog/?p=2576 Read More]]>

Away from home plunged into this new strange life.

No one to hold my hand in dark or to scold me to finish my vegetables.

Not a child anymore, I have grown up, I know.

Look Ma, I am living the college life, you know!

So much to do, so much to see, so much to learn and so much to feel.

There is so much freedom here, so excited yet I am scared.

I am scared to lose myself and my ways.

I am scared to become a lost soul in my college.

This is all so overwhelming but didn’t I ask for this?

I miss the security and safety of my home, the known.

The uncertainty of the unknown makes me uneasy.

So I take a walk towards the earth, the nature, the trees.

I have always sought peace and guidance from nature.

So here I am near my known again, seeking peace for my uneased mind and scared heart.

I walk among the trees and feel the wind and I breathe for the first time this week.

Yes, college life can be hectic and immense, but it is also fun and exciting.

I am not a child anymore, I have grown up, I see.

I am at home with nature, and college is surrounded by home.

I am not scared anymore.

Look I am living my college life, I am somewhat home.

Ishani Sharma

Section B

Jindal School of Psychology and Counselling

(Batch 2024)

Email ID- 21jspc-isharma@jgu.edu.in

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Five Love Languages /jspc/studentblog/2022/08/30/five-love-languages-2/ Tue, 30 Aug 2022 07:38:01 +0000 https://jgu-staging.jgu.edu.in/studentblog/?p=2575 Read More]]>

"Be someone who makes you happy."


Reflection on my journey of learning to love oneself through ‘Five Love Languages'.

From my school days, the idea of loving oneself always interested me. I know many people think that loving oneself is a very selfish act. This is not surprising, given in a collectivist culture India, most of us have grown with the belief that ‘we should always put other people’s needs and interests before our own.’ I want to begin this article by bursting this myth- self-love is not being selfish or ‘narcissistic’ or disrespecting others’ needs. As I see it, self-love, is being in touch with what one wants, doing things that makes one happy and taking care of one’s health and well-being. At the same time, it also means taking accountability for what one’s doing and how this may impact others. I believe if you love yourself, it’s easier to love others also.

My interest in this topic led me to research more on how I can best express love to myself and take care of my well-being. Heidi Priebe in her YouTube video talked about the book named ‘Five Love Languages’ by Dr. Gary Chapman, a counsellor. In the video, she draws in ideas on how humans primarily give and receive love. These love languages are said to be how we contemplate and find love meaningful. The five love languages, as laid out in this book, are words of affirmation, acts of service, quality time, receiving gifts, and physical touch.

Here is a brief explanation and some tips for self-love based on Five Love Languages:

  • Words of Affirmation: This is about feeling loved and valued through words of encouragement and appreciation. This can be practiced by sticking encouraging notes around one’s home, maintaining a jar in which one can collect things for which they are grateful for (examples – a small gift, seashells, bracelets etc.), using vision boards, watching inspirational Ted Talks, or talking about one’s accomplishments.

  • Acts of Service: This involves feeling loved by doing something nice for oneself. This can be practiced by asking oneself what they need the most and giving it to oneself, doing errands that are important for one’s personal growth, setting healthy boundaries, investing in personal time, tidying up and decorating one’s space.

  • Quality Time: This is about feeling loved through the undivided attention given to oneself, with minimal interruptions from others. This may involve enjoying coffee/tea mindfully without being distracted phone or laptop, sitting and watching the sunset or other natural phenomena as per one’s preference, going on solo trips, reading things one enjoys, listening to music, or watching an inspirational movie.

  • Receiving Gifts: It’s about feeling loved through receiving gifts from oneself. One could try investing in one’s interests, creating a scrapbook for oneself, starting a project for fun, making a personalized calming music playlist, or enrolling in a class one would enjoy.

  • Physical Touch. This is about showing love to oneself through touch, physical closeness, and physically taking care of oneself to feel good. Trying to cook a healthy dinner, getting fresh air, drinking more water, pampering oneself, snuggling up with a blanket and watching a movie, one could even take a soothing bath that makes one celebrate one’s body and spirit! 

With time, practice, and patience, I learned that my preferred love languages are acts of service, quality time, and physical touch. All this has transformed the way I relate to myself – now I am much kinder to my body, feeding
it proper food that truly nourishes it. I engage more in personal “me-time,” and do not compromise it for someone else.

I hope this article inspires you to take this journey of loving
yourself, figuring out the language of love that helps you most, and grow into a loving version of yourself. If you wish to discuss more about loving yourself and share what helped you, please feel to drop me a message or bump into me at ‘chai tapri’!

Resources

 If you would like to do the Love Languages Test or retake it to confirm your top 3 love languages, feel free to take the test here – https://

Watch Heidi Priebe’s video mentioned above here – https://youtu.be/wgn9k6cTM5Y

 

 Ria Abraham 

Section C

Jindal School of Psychology and Counselling 

(Batch 2024)

Email ID: 21jspc-rabraham@jgu.edu.in

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From The Editor’s Desk /jspc/studentblog/2022/08/25/from-the-editors-desk-2/ Thu, 25 Aug 2022 13:45:08 +0000 https://jgu-staging.jgu.edu.in/studentblog/?p=2568 Read More]]>

Psychology in everyday life… a reflection from editors’ desk

William James, one of the most influential philosophers and psychologist defined psychology as the science of mental life, both of its phenomena and their conditions. In simple words, psychology studies people’s behavior, cognitive attitudes, performances, and mental functioning. All these factors come into play daily in our lives and we may or may not be aware of them. Thus, contrary to popular belief, psychology is not utilized merely by students of the discipline or those practicing in the field, this science of behavior is an important part in our daily lives regardless of our professions, our fortes and our callings in life.

A closer look at some of domains where psychology and its principles impact our day-to-day living. Psychology offers tremendously as one learns from their environment and starts getting accustomed to it. It plays a major role when one needs to trace holistically the rationale of why people behave in a certain way – and with these pieces of information one can reflect on their past, mindfully work on their present and aspire to improve their future. And this is all the more needed when the threshold of our concept of self is extending to a social, virtual one. Rather than analyzing these different domains from a lens of segregation, if it is perceived from a lens of similarity – a central theme of commonality between them would meet the eye – Psychology plays an integral role in shaping one’s decision-making skills and can help one in regulating stressful situations and coping through life challenges. Acquiring such intra-personal skills can help one in managing one’s time, surroundings, as well as form a magnanimous help in achieving goals – as a result, in living effectively. This field enables one to gain an insight of their thought process, which holds in it the ability for them to develop a rational and critical thinking. These acquired skills make one ‘wise enough’ to tackle their situations proactively, and make the best use of their situational demands.

In this scenario of a dichotomous world – both virtual and real, being extensions of our own selves – there is an increased intricate symbiotic relationship between one’s quality of life and their life-chances and the catalyst for this is everyday decision-making. The skill of effective decision-making is a challenge and can be empirically said to be is rooted in psychology and its techniques.

Each interaction and conclusion reached is comprised of certain mental sets, heuristics, or at least communication styles – because humans are social animals and communicate with each other and routinely contribute to each other’s transfer of knowledge. It is hence easy to reflect how a distortion in any of these elements or processes, can be a huge barrier in everyday life. Living amidst a plateau of unique technological advancements yet in an era of misinformation is a huge challenge for the citizenry of this world. While science has contributed in unmatchable ways, the internet has left a lot of unregulated domains where very frequently – through sensationalism, dualistic thinking, and herd-mentality – a shift in terms of hampering our judgment and decision making and impeding our critical thinking skills – is taking place. This challenge peaked more amidst the pandemic where the human touch was lost and we all were only left with limited amounts of communication styles, most of which were falling apart or undergoing serious challenges. In such a situation, it is of paramount importance to sit and reflect as psychology students about the conscious, rational decisions we are taking on a regular basis, and to monitor and regulate them through awareness and open dialogue – Distorted dialogue in the virtual and real world among individuals oftentimes forms the silent foundation as well as the dynamic basis of increased inter-group conflicts in everyday life – because of latent elements of stereotyping and discrimination in everyday thought, speech, and action one may not even be aware of. Psychology analyses such sub-elements which shape our realities and their constructs.

Psychology plays a huge role in the unique element that separates us from all other species that we share the world with – socialization. What humans have off late been doing with their unique function, is fight – for resources, for power, or for having the last word. What forms the background for such oppressive acts on each other and the world – are often, stereotypes. As has been famously quoted, stereotypes are not wrong information but incomplete information. Psychology comes in play at this stage where it helps to see the larger picture and not just the actions or behaviour in alienation. The very soul of psychology lies in observation and analysis. In a similar manner, the implementation and study of psychology is not limited to mental well-being,it is used vastly in in real-time settings of workplaces, schools and institutions; for life-skills management, understanding social and group behaviour, and even employment selection. Psychology is important in understanding these various domains of human society – because it is have been realized that human behaviour is the central aspect of all human activities, and to regulate activities would also require regulation and management of human behaviour. But to reach there, the first step is awareness of human behaviour per se.

In an age of rapid flow of information, varied truths and multiple versions of ‘the best’ ways possible exist at the same time, being the core of differences, fights and altercations – It is human nature to question and to be sceptical of things around us in this coexisting multiplicity of thoughts. This is because what works for one, may not be the similarly defined option for someone else. Different schools of thoughts in psychology address the same, and come to help inclusively – individuals with varied circumstances, each school celebrating the power of subjectivity. Each school with its own theory, beliefs and tools, helps one to reach first the definition of the cause, and eventually the transformation in healing that we all want to be a part of, not just individually – but as a species that has seen unprecedented times. Psychology also helps in understanding the mind-body relationship. This relationship takes into consideration the fact that one’s attitudes, thoughts and feelings can have a significant impact on their physical wellbeing and health. One’s physical disposition can have a widespread influence on their mental health, simply because they form the core of the concept of well-being – together. The dissemination of these constructs and how they function, holds the potential to effectively tap in on the existing poor mental health conditions among the population of not just the country, but the world.

Each one of us has our inherent biases and beliefs which we have picked over the years by observing and learning from the world around us. We generalise things to help us grasp situations and to make sense of the world around us. These “mental schemas” or generalisations are what help us to survive in daily life. However, they also become the base note for stereotypes and biases.

Psychology plays a particularly significant role in helping us understand why things exist the way they do and how best we can address them. In the same spirit, we bring forth our first student-led blog with the theme ‘Psychology in Daily Life’ to help reduce the myths and stereotypes around psychology. The sole purpose of the blog is to provide a platform for students to express their creative forms with references to psychological theories and principles. The motive behind the blog is to spread psychological awareness, challenge social myths and encourage people to look at psychology from a more scientific and medical perspective. Consider these scenarios – How often in everyday life do we see an animal and refer to it as a male? How often in everyday life do we assume that the pilot of our flight or the driver of our train will be a man too? As budding psychologists, it is our prime duty to be mindful and aware of our own selves, and understand ourselves before we begin to understand others. We need to challenge our stereotypes and biases and learn to be better at looking at the bigger picture than what just meets the eye. We need to educate ourselves to identify, trace and capitalise rationality, logic and science in our everyday lives, and to approach with curiosity the idea of how the nuances compiled in this article are just a small drop in the vast pond of psychology as a science. With the hope that we all make collective informed decisions, we the editors of the JSPC student blog welcome you to the first edition of our blog – which is just a step in the direction of empirical awareness and mindful assistance that we all today need.

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