{"id":2575,"date":"2022-08-30T07:38:01","date_gmt":"2022-08-30T07:38:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/jgu-staging.jgu.edu.in\/studentblog\/?p=2575"},"modified":"2022-10-04T08:41:18","modified_gmt":"2022-10-04T08:41:18","slug":"five-love-languages-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/jgu.edu.in\/jspc\/studentblog\/2022\/08\/30\/five-love-languages-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Five Love Languages"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"2575\" class=\"elementor elementor-2575\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-634512d elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"634512d\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-37017ae\" data-id=\"37017ae\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d2dcd42 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"d2dcd42\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<style>\/*! elementor - v3.23.0 - 05-08-2024 *\/\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}<\/style><h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><h1 style=\"margin-top:3.5pt\"><span lang=\"EN-US\" style=\"color:firebrick\">\"Be someone who makes you happy.\"<\/span><span lang=\"EN-US\"><o:p><\/o:p><\/span><\/h1><br><p style=\"margin-top:.25pt\"><span style=\"color: firebrick; font-family: var( --e-global-typography-primary-font-family ), Sans-serif; font-weight: var( --e-global-typography-primary-font-weight ); font-size: 18px;\">Reflection on my journey of learning to love oneself <\/span><span style=\"color: firebrick; font-family: var( --e-global-typography-primary-font-family ), Sans-serif; font-weight: var( --e-global-typography-primary-font-weight ); font-size: 18px;\">through \u2018Five Love Languages'.<\/span><span style=\"color: var( --e-global-color-primary ); font-family: var( --e-global-typography-primary-font-family ), Sans-serif; font-weight: var( --e-global-typography-primary-font-weight ); font-size: 18px;\"><\/span><\/p><\/h2>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-dcc1683 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"dcc1683\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-21240dd\" data-id=\"21240dd\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6d7bc32 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"6d7bc32\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<style>\/*! elementor - v3.23.0 - 05-08-2024 *\/\n.elementor-widget-text-editor.elementor-drop-cap-view-stacked .elementor-drop-cap{background-color:#69727d;color:#fff}.elementor-widget-text-editor.elementor-drop-cap-view-framed .elementor-drop-cap{color:#69727d;border:3px solid;background-color:transparent}.elementor-widget-text-editor:not(.elementor-drop-cap-view-default) .elementor-drop-cap{margin-top:8px}.elementor-widget-text-editor:not(.elementor-drop-cap-view-default) .elementor-drop-cap-letter{width:1em;height:1em}.elementor-widget-text-editor .elementor-drop-cap{float:left;text-align:center;line-height:1;font-size:50px}.elementor-widget-text-editor .elementor-drop-cap-letter{display:inline-block}<\/style>\t\t\t\t<p>From my school days, the idea of loving oneself always interested me. I know many people think that loving oneself is a very selfish act. This is not surprising, given in a collectivist culture India, most of us have grown with the belief that \u2018we should always put other people\u2019s needs and interests before our own.\u2019 I want to begin this article by bursting this myth- self-love is not being selfish or \u2018narcissistic\u2019 or disrespecting others\u2019 needs. As I see it, self-love, is being in touch with what one wants, doing things that makes one happy and taking care of one\u2019s health and well-being. At the same time, it also means taking accountability for what one\u2019s doing and how this may impact others. I believe if you love yourself, it\u2019s easier to love others also.<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p>My interest in this topic led me to research more on how I can best express love to myself and take care of my well-being. Heidi Priebe in her YouTube video talked about the book named \u2018Five Love Languages\u2019 by Dr. Gary Chapman, a counsellor. In the video, she draws in ideas on how humans primarily give and receive love. These love languages are said to be how we contemplate and find love meaningful. The five love languages, as laid out in this book, are <strong>words of affirmation, acts of service, quality time, receiving gifts, <\/strong>and <strong>physical touch<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<h1>Here is a brief explanation and some tips for self-love based on Five Love Languages<strong>:<\/strong><\/h1>\n<p><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Words <\/strong><strong>of Affirmation: <\/strong>This is about feeling loved and valued through words of encouragement and appreciation. This can be practiced by sticking encouraging notes around one\u2019s home, maintaining a jar in which one can collect things for which they are grateful for (examples &#8211; a small gift, seashells, bracelets etc.), using vision boards, watching inspirational Ted Talks, or talking about one\u2019s accomplishments.<\/li><\/ul><div><br><\/div><ul>\n<li><strong>Acts of Service: <\/strong>This involves feeling loved by doing something nice for oneself. This can be practiced by asking oneself what they need the most and giving it to oneself, doing errands that are important for one\u2019s personal growth, setting healthy boundaries, investing in personal time, tidying up and decorating one\u2019s space.<\/li><\/ul><div><br><\/div><ul>\n<li><strong>Quality Time<\/strong>: This is about feeling loved through the undivided attention given to oneself, with minimal interruptions from others. This may involve enjoying coffee\/tea mindfully without being distracted phone or laptop, sitting and watching the sunset or other natural phenomena as per one\u2019s preference, going on solo trips, reading things one enjoys, listening to music, or watching an inspirational movie.<\/li><\/ul><div><br><\/div><ul>\n<li><strong>Receiving Gifts<\/strong>: It\u2019s about feeling loved through receiving gifts from oneself. One could try investing in one\u2019s interests, creating a scrapbook for oneself, starting a project for fun, making a personalized calming music playlist, or enrolling in a class one would enjoy.<\/li><\/ul><div><br><\/div><ul>\n<li><strong>Physical Touch. <\/strong>This is about showing love to oneself through touch, physical closeness, and physically taking care of oneself to feel good. Trying to cook a healthy dinner, getting fresh air, drinking more water, pampering oneself, snuggling up with a blanket and watching a movie, one could even take a soothing bath that makes one celebrate one\u2019s body and spirit!&nbsp;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: var( --e-global-typography-text-font-weight );\">With time, practice, and patience, I learned that my preferred love languages are acts of service, quality time, and physical touch. All this has transformed the way I relate to myself \u2013 now I am much kinder to my body, feeding<br>it proper food that truly nourishes it. I engage more in personal \u201cme-time,\u201d and do not compromise it for someone else.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>I hope this article inspires you to take this journey of loving<br>yourself, figuring out the language of love that helps you most, and grow into a loving version of yourself. If you wish to discuss more about loving yourself and share what helped you, please feel to drop me a message or bump into me at \u2018chai tapri\u2019!<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<p><strong>Resources<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>&nbsp;<\/strong><span style=\"font-weight: var( --e-global-typography-text-font-weight );\">If you would like to do the Love Languages Test or retake it to confirm your top 3 love languages, feel free to take the test here &#8211; <\/span><u style=\"font-weight: var( --e-global-typography-text-font-weight );\">https:\/\/<\/u><span style=\"font-weight: var( --e-global-typography-text-font-weight );\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.5lovelanguages.com\/quizzes\/\">www.5lovelanguages.com\/quizzes\/.<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: var( --e-global-typography-text-font-weight );\">Watch Heidi Priebe\u2019s video mentioned above here &#8211; <\/span><u style=\"font-weight: var( --e-global-typography-text-font-weight );\">https:\/\/youtu.be\/wgn9k6cTM5Y<\/u><\/p>\n<p><strong>&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>&nbsp;<\/strong><strong>Ria Abraham&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Section C<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Jindal School of Psychology and Counselling&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>(Batch 2024)<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Email ID: <\/strong><span style=\"font-weight: var( --e-global-typography-text-font-weight );\"><a href=\"mailto:21jspc-rabraham@jgu.edu.in\"><strong>21jspc-rabraham@jgu.edu.in<\/strong><\/a><\/span><\/p>\n<p><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&#8220;Be someone who makes you happy.&#8221; Reflection on my journey of learning to love oneself through \u2018Five Love Languages&#8217;. 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